The Lazear-Smith & Vander Plaat Memorial Home has compiled this list to aid you in locating a bereavement group. If you find that any of the information listed below is incorrect or if you know of a group that should be added to this list, please contact us.

National Grief Recovery Hotline
Monday - Friday 9am-5pm
Hotline for people who have lost loved ones that offers grief counseling over the phone, seminars and outreach programs.
Infant Death
SIDS Alliance
General Bereavement Group
Meets 1st Wednesday of the Month, weather permitting.
7-8:30 p.m. in the Hospitality Room, St. Stephens RC Church
75 Sanfordville Rd, Warwick
Contact: Judy Battista 845-987-4207
Warwick United Methodist Church meets 3rd Tuesday of each month at 7:00pm at the church.
Victims/Survivors of a drunk-driving crash
Counselors available to help survivors survive.
Victims/Survivors of a drunk-driving crash
Counselors available to help survivors survive.
Hospice of Orange & Sullivan Counties, Inc.
For bereavement services call:
(Emergency) - 845-561-6111
(Non-Emergency) - 845-565-4849
The Children's Grieving Center: call 845-561-6111
Sharing & Caring Support Group
For families who have experienced the loss of a baby through miscarriage, stillbirth or neonatal death
Contact St. Anthony's Community Hospital
Meets first Wednesday of each month @7:30 pm

Our Library

In honor of Robert N.Smith, a library has been created in the funeral home, which includes many books covering a wide array of topics on the death of loved ones and the grieving process. We have sections on the loss of a child,suicide, death of a parent, death of a spouse, and dealing with grief. We encourage visitors to browse through the books and borrow any that would be of interest.

Book Name Author
A Time to Grieve Carol Staudacher
A Decembered Grief Harold Smith
After Good-bye Lynette Freisen
ABC’s of Healthy Grieving Harold Smith
A Grace Disguised Jerry Sittser
Adventures of a Clay Pot Richard Ryley
After the Darkest Hour Elizabeth Mehren
After the Death of a Child Ann Finkbiner
A Piece of My Heart Molly Fumie
Always Too Soon Allison Gilbert
A Grief Observed C. S. Lewis
Awakening from Grief John E. Welshons
Be Not Afraid (3) Johann C. Arnold
Creating Meaningful Funeral Experiences Alan D. Wolfelt
Companion Through the Darkness Stephanie Ericcson
Dying We Live Edward S. Gleason
Dancing in my Nightgown Betty Auchard
Dying to be Free Beverly Cobain & Jean Larch
Don’t Take My Grief Away from Me Doug Manning
Father Loss Neil Chetnik
Finding Your Way After a Spouse Dies Marta Felber
Grieving a Suicide Albert Hsu
Grief: Climb Toward Understanding Phyllis Davies
Grieving the Death of a Mother Harold Smith
God of the Valley Steve Griffiths
Guest of My Life Elizabeth Watson
Grieving: A Beginners Guide Jerusha McCormack
Grief’s Courageous Journey Sandi Caplan & Gordon Lang
Grief Andrew Holleran
Getting to the Other Side of Grief Susan Zonnebelt-Smeenge
Grieving Mindfully Sameet M. Kumar
He Giveth More Grace Richard Ryley
How to Handle Trouble John Carmody
How to Survive the Loss of a Child Catherine Sanders
Heading Through the Shadow of Loss Deborah Coryell
How to go on Living When Someone Dies Therese A. Rendo
Healing After the Suicide of a Loved One Ann Sandin
Healing After Loss(2) Martha W. Hickman
I’m Grieving as fast as I can Linda Feinberg
Lament for a Son Nicholas Wolstersdorff
Letting Go With Love Nancy O’Connor
Life After Loss(3) Bob Deits
Little Pieces of Light Joyce Rupp
Living When a Loved One Has Died Earl A. Grollman
Letters from Motherless Daughters Hope Edelman
Markings on the Window Sill Ronald Greer
My Beautiful Sand Castle Moment Carol H. Adams
Our Walk with Elephants Peggy Boone
Remember with Love Elizabeth Levang
Safe Passage Molly Fumia
Turning My Mourning into Dancing(2) Henry Nouwen
Traveling Through Grief Susan Zonnebelt-Smeenge
To Henry in Heaven Herbert Brokering
The Worst Loss Barbara Rosof
The Empty Room Elizabeth DeVita-Raeburn
The Gift of Memory Marianne Richmond
The Courage to Grieve Judy Tatelbaum
The Empty Chair Susan Zonnebelt-Smeenge
The 36 Hour Day Nancy L. Mace
This Thing Called Grief Thomas Ellis
Transcending Loss Ashley D. Prend
Through a Season of Grief Bill Dunn & Kathy Leonard
The Healing Power of Grief G. Lintermanns & M. Stolzmann
The Dancing Ground Richard Ryley
You Are Not Alone (4) Lynn Hughes
Until We Meet Again Guideposts
Understanding Your Grief Alan Wolfelt
Understanding the Emotional & Physical Effects of Grief Brook Noel
Up from Grief Bernadine Kreis
When Your Child Dies Theresa Huntley
When You Don’t Know What to Say Harold Smith
When Your Parent Dies Ron Klug
When Parents Die Edward Myers
When People Grieve Paula D’Arcy
When We Hurt Philip Yancey
When a Loved One Dies Philip Williams
When Your Baby Dies Louis Gamino
When Your Spouse Dies Cathleen Curry
When We Remember Melissa Abraham
Winter Grief-Summer Grief James E. Miller
Winter’s Gift Jane Donovan
Widow to Widow Genevieve Ginsburg
When Families Grieve Sesame Street
Will the Circle be Unbroken Studs Terkel
When Children Grieve John James & Russell Friedman


Please contact us to request a booklet.

Be Gentle with Yourself While Grieving
Dealing with the Deep Sorrow of Sudden Death
Finding Your Way After the Death of a Spouse
Giving Yourself Permission to Grieve
Healing Thoughts to Soothe a Grieving Heart
Making Sense of Your Life after a Loved One’s Death
Overcoming Loneliness After Loss
Taking Care of Yourself While Grieving
When Death Comes Unexpectedly to Someone You Love
What Everyone Should Know about the First Year of Grief

For Children and Teens
Grieving When you Lose Someone Close
When a Classmate Dies
When Your Parent Dies
When Your Grandparent Dies
When Your Grandparent Dies – A Child’s Guide to Good Grief

Seasonal booklets
Making Lent a Season for Healing Your Grief
Grieving at Christmas
Getting Through the Holidays When You’ve Lost a Loved One
Losing a Loved One Near the Holidays
Your First Christmas after a Loved One Dies

Links to organizations

Social Security Administration
Information on benefits from the Social Security Administration.
Department of Veterans Affairs
Department of Veterans Affairs Information on benefits available from the Veterans Administration.

Website Information

Today, most important information is accessed via the internet and funeral services are no different at We have provided not only essential information that people request, such as funeral home address and direction information, but also an obituary page for each funeral service. This enables your family a secure place that will allow everyone to view the obituary information for their loved one, whose life we are honoring. Included are the service schedules and locations, as well as family members surviving the individual, and any special request, such as memorial donation information.

Additionally the obituary pages of our website provide a number of ways to communicate with families and to share memories with others. A private message can be sent to the family through a condolence card or a memory could be posted on the bottom of a person’s obituary page for all who visit to view. Photos and stories interwoven tell a story and can be shared by creating a memorial page for someone. Here is a separate place to create more extensive memories through photos and text with more options for the appearance which then can be viewed by everyone.

All postings to an obituary page are first sent to a family member for review. The family members name receiving these messages is provided on the page for that individual. Each family is given access to a private webpage for review and approval of all submitted information. After reviewing these postings the families can control the release of these messages to be added to the publicly viewable page

Online Obituaries

Obituary and death notices are public notices of the death of someone traditionally published in a newspaper. Newspapers have evolved into full obituaries in recent times, although some are still free, such as our weekly newspapers, The Advertiser and The Dispatch. Although most are now paid obituaries, some newspapers do offer a limited death notice at no cost.

Each notice is unique, although they often follow a format which readers have become accustomed to. We at Lazear-Smith & Vander Plaat Memorial Home will work with you to gather all the essential information, as well as discuss the different dimensions of biographical and personal information, such as a family statement. We will make every effort to create an obituary that is appropriate and unique for each person.

At the Lazear-Smith & Vander Plaat Memorial Home, we can facilitate placement of newspaper notices in almost any newspaper in the country. Each newspaper has its’ own policy about the cost, usually on a per line basis. Some still run free obituaries, but a newspaper notice can range from a hundred dollars to several hundred dollars, or even a thousand dollars in certain papers, depending on the newspaper. We can provide information and guidance regarding the individual newspaper charges and will help to give options about the different ways that we can handle these costs.

Because a notice in the newspaper is a public statement of the loss of a loved one, it can often become a cherished remembrance for a family. There are many important considerations about what is best for each family and it is our goal to advise you as to the ways a dignified, yet personal statement, can be composed.

A photograph can be included with an obituary in the newspaper or a symbol may be selected, such as an American flag. Consideration must be made that this may add more linage, adding to the cost.